The 2010-2011 PIAA wrestling season for my son came to an end Friday night. It was a tough end to a rough grinding sophomore season. Trey seemed okay with all of it. He was not happy to have the season end without a trip to Hershey, the location of the Pennsylvania State Championships, but he rebounds quickly and keeps everything in perspective. He is good like that. He thinks through challenges and works on finding what can help him advance the next time.
That is my son.
(This is Trey in his first wrestling tournament at age 5. )
(and this is Trey after his first wrestling season age 5. )
Me? Ahhhh, I have other issues. I did not fair so well this year as a dad of a wrestler. It finally hit me this season that Trey is fighting his own battles. He is going into competition and going it alone. I have come to understand this season that Trey is doing exactly what all fathers inspire their boys to be, what we want our boys to do. They learn to become men. Tough transition for me. My job is to protect Trey from harm and help him fight through battles. I have learned this year that he is fighting his own battles and learning from every win or loss. I have learned (the hard way) that I cannot fight his battles for him like I used to when he was 4 and 5. (There is a story about a certain play ground in Brookline, a neighborhood in Pittsburgh, where I had to actually defend myself and Trey from an overly aggressive father of a 6 year old. But that is a rather old story and one I would rather not bring up today) It is truly a bitter sweet moment.
(2010-2011 Sophomore year)
I hope that the next season is a little kinder to me than this season was. I know Trey will do fine and will progress on the mat without my help. He did a fine job this season without my help. I am not worried about Trey coping with these issues. I hope I can keep wandering the back walls of the gymnasium and not have my heart jump out of my chest as he is walking out onto the mat for battle. I hope I get to the point where I can sit in the stands and just cheer for Trey (not have my heart in my throat) and enjoy each match and watch him grow into an even better man on and off the mat.














